It's okay to ask.
A safe place for men to talk, to be heard, and to ask for help — without having to explain yourself first.
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Plenty of men carry things they never say out loud. Not because they don't want to — because it can feel like there's nowhere safe to put it, and no easy way to ask.
Ask Andrew is being built to change that: a calm, judgement-free space to talk, to connect with other men near you, and to reach real support when you need it. Built by someone who has been there, for the people who shouldn't have to go through it alone.
This is the very beginning. The community and the features below are being built now.
Where the name comes from
"Ask Andrew" began as a safe word in Aotearoa — a quiet way for a man to signal he needed help getting out of a situation, without having to explain himself or draw attention. The counterpart to "Ask Angela".
We're taking that same idea — asking for help, without having to spell it out — and turning it into a place: online to start with, and connected to local groups over time.
What's coming
Somewhere to talk
A safe, moderated space to vent, share, and be heard by men who get it — at your own pace.
Connect locally
Find and join groups and people near you, so support isn't just a screen — it's your own community.
A safety-check call or text
Ask for a call or text that gives you a reason to step away — a hand out of a situation when you need one.
Anonymous by design
Your real details stay yours. You choose what to share, and with whom.
Get support now
Ask Andrew is a peer community and a place to find help — it isn't an emergency service. If things are urgent, please reach the people below right now.
More helplines and local services will be listed here soon.
Where else to turn
Ask Andrew is just getting started. Until there's more here, these are good, trusted New Zealand places for support and connection — at your own pace.
Mental Health Foundation
Information, support, and the full list of New Zealand helplines.
NZ Men's Group Network
Prefer face-to-face? Find a men's group near you, by region.
Tough Talk
Everyday Kiwi men sharing the tools they use to cope and stay well.
Man Alive
Support and programmes for men's wellbeing.
Canterbury Men's Centre
Support and resources for men.
Men & Trauma NZ
Help for men dealing with trauma and its effects.
We'll verify and expand this list soon — if a link's out of date, it'll be fixed.
Keep in touch
It's early days. If you'd like to know when it opens — or just want to say it matters — leave your email. That's all we'll store, and only so we can tell you when it's ready.
We'll only use your email to let you know when Ask Andrew opens. No spam, never shared.